What is our life's purpose?
Why are we here?
Is there something we're supposed to do?
Is there one unique gift each of us is given? One unique purpose we're supposed to accomplish? One major test we need to pass?
Or is our purpose a moving target -- always evolving, always changing?
How can we find our life's purpose? What do we look for it, and where?
And if there is something we need to do, why does life get in our way?
Why does it often feel like we're swimming upstream?
We internalize messaging that tells us we have one job to do here in the world, and that our life's work has to be something grandiose that changes the world.
We learn that it is selfish to focus on our own wellbeing, and therefore our life's purpose has to come with some sort of sacrifice to ourselves while helping the most number of people. We hold this belief in one hand while simultaneously cultivating a deep desire for an easier, more abundant life in the other.
We falsely buy into the notion that there is are finite ways of doing things. We study those who have what we want and try to recreate the steps they took to get to where we would like to be. We read their quotes, use their techniques, implement their processes, and feel increasingly like perhaps success is not for us when things don't work out the way they should. Except that deep within us, we know that success, abundance, happiness, and joy are our right.
We encounter and build duality atop duality, and no duality is more destructive than our belief that the answers we seek are outside of us.
We don't know who we are until we lose ourselves.
We don't see the light, until we sit in darkness.
We expand only through contraction.
And feel connection only when there is separation.
Our very existence here, on this physical plane, is a duality: we are non-physical infinite beings, having physical, seemingly finite experiences. There is no duality greater than this.
Another great duality that informs our lives is this: We come with a strong desire to do something in the world and for the world, but as long as we seek the object of our creation -- our life's purpose -- outside of us, we do not find it. Our life's work is never outside of us. The deeper we go into ourselves to find it, the more its echoes are felt by the world.
What I mean when I say to look within yourself is simply this:
Listen to the whisper of your Inner Being, which speaks to you in inspiration. Trust this inspiration. Be willing to take action in its service.
Is this not what surrender is? A coming together, a rejoining with that non-physical, infinite part of you that holds all the answers?
Here are a few other powerful dualities:
It is when we know the least that we know the most.
It's when we let go of control that we are guided toward our dreams.
It's when we stop trying to understand every turn that we find the quickest way to our destination.
Is this counter intuitive?
You don't need to go far to validate these statements.
Look at your own life. Was there a project that simply seemed to work out, from beginning to end, as though by magic? Was there a time when you had a great idea, and just knew what to do, and next thing you knew, your idea was actualized?
Look at any successful person for whom success came with ease. You will see a flow of movement running through their project or their career. It seems they knew, intuitively, where they needed to be, whom they needed to talk to, what they needed to do, in order to get to where they desired to go.
Look closely. Imagine being at the beginning of their journey with them. Imagine standing in that space of uncertainty, during a time this person could barely pay rent, when they had to crash on people's couches, when they lived in their car, when no one had any knowledge of the ideas, the books, the businesses, the products, etc. they held in their head, when they had very few options and an infinite number of ways to move forward.
Imagine standing in that uncertainty with them. What came over them that they were able to take such sure actions? Is what they did different that what you did in the service or your project that just worked out?
I am never surprised when I listen to people who have created their dream lives and hear them say their path opened up when they finally began listening to and trusting their inner wisdom. We do this intuitively on occasion. But how powerful would we be, if we could live this way intentionally? How much of our dreams would we actualize, if we knew consciously the power of inspiration?
There are many ways in which we get in our own way. Here are 10 of the most common: